During the Vietnam war, many wives where left deserted by husbands sent to war by the draft. This left them in a difficult position where all they could do was support their husbands. Men in war used these women to look back on as a comforting memory during war. During the 20th century, women had been looked to for support as they where viewed as caring and provided a safe place when near. In Tim O'Briens The Things They Carry woman are a vital support to all the men on the battlefield.